Imagine breaking free from:

The patterns that have held you back, finally letting go of that inner voice that keeps you in a loop of self-doubt, telling you to stay small. If you’ve ever felt like you’re “too much” or “not enough,” it’s time to shift that story.

Healing From Toxic Moms is a safe, welcoming space to help you recognize and gently release these patterns, empowering you to live with freedom, confidence, and strength.

Does This Sound Familiar?

Maybe you’ve noticed that your mother’s voice or behavior still affects how you see yourself, how you relate to others, or how you make decisions. It might show up as:

not enough

A tendency to doubt your feelings, often wondering if they’re “valid” or “important enough.”

trust issues

Difficulty trusting others, even when they’ve shown they’re there for you.

feeling responsible

Feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions, often putting your own needs aside to avoid “rocking the boat.”

feeling anxious

Feeling anxious about setting boundaries, worrying it might cause someone to pull away.

If any of these sound familiar, you’re not alone. Many people carry these patterns quietly, often without even realizing their origin. But healing is possible, and with a warm, guided approach, you can move forward with new confidence and peace.

Introducing...

This 4-week program is a journey of self-discovery, compassion, and healing. Join Kara—a caring, trauma-informed coach with decades of experience—in a supportive Facebook group setting where you’ll feel safe, understood, and encouraged to do the healing work that’s been calling to you.

What You’ll Receive:

Four weeks of live, compassionate coaching with Kara in a private Facebook group that’s designed just for this work
Weekly video sessions that create a comfortable, accessible space for learning and growing
Thoughtfully designed journal prompts that allow you to reflect, process, and deepen your experience
Lifetime access to our group community so you’ll always have a place to return to on your journey

Real World Examples...

Here are some real-world examples where patterns from a toxic mother relationship might subtly (or not so subtly) show up in your daily life:

People-Pleasing at Work
You might find yourself constantly overcommitting, saying “yes” to tasks even when you’re overwhelmed, because you fear disappointing others or worry that you’ll be seen as difficult. It can stem from a need to earn approval or a fear of rejection rooted in early experiences.

Feeling Unworthy in Relationships
When you’re in a romantic relationship, you might struggle to feel genuinely loved or supported. This could show up as constantly questioning whether your partner truly cares or as feeling unworthy of love, leading to self-sabotaging behaviors or even pushing people away.

Difficulty Setting Boundaries
In friendships or family relationships, you may struggle to set clear boundaries because you’re worried about coming across as “selfish” or “mean.” This pattern often originates from feeling like your needs weren’t important or that they would upset others.

Over-Explaining or Justifying Your Actions
Whether it’s with colleagues, friends, or loved ones, you may find yourself justifying even the smallest decisions, like why you chose a specific restaurant or wore a certain outfit. This could be an internalized habit of feeling like you’re always “wrong” or need to defend your choices.

Hypervigilance and Difficulty Relaxing
You might feel the need to always be on high alert, scanning situations to ensure everything is okay or to prevent anything from going wrong. This constant sense of needing to “manage” things can often be a byproduct of growing up in an environment where things felt unpredictable or tense.

Taking Responsibility for Others’ Emotions
You may feel like it’s your job to keep everyone else happy and avoid conflict. For example, if a friend or partner seems upset, you might assume it’s your fault or feel compelled to fix it immediately, even when it has nothing to do with you.

Downplaying or Ignoring Your Own Needs
It might feel almost reflexive to put others first, often at the expense of your own well-being. You might, for instance, cancel your plans because someone else needs you, even if it’s inconvenient or emotionally draining.

Struggling with Self-Care
If self-care feels uncomfortable, unnecessary, or even “selfish,” it can be a sign of past conditioning that taught you your needs were less important. You might not feel “worthy” of taking time for yourself or investing in your own health and happiness.

Fear of Conflict or Assertiveness
You might find yourself avoiding any form of disagreement, or apologizing quickly just to keep the peace. It can stem from a fear of abandonment or punishment if you speak up or go against someone else’s wishes, especially in relationships.

Difficulty Trusting Others
You may have trouble fully trusting others, even those who’ve proven they’re reliable. This might show up as always keeping a little distance, guarding yourself emotionally, or fearing that others will betray or let you down, even without cause.

Rationalizing Hurtful Behaviors
If a friend, partner, or family member treats you poorly, you may find yourself justifying their actions by saying, “They’re going through a lot” or “They didn’t mean it.” This can be a lingering effect of always defending a mother’s hurtful behaviors to protect yourself from facing the pain directly.

These patterns can affect your life in big and small ways, but recognizing them is the first step to healing. With time and compassionate work, you can release these old habits and embrace a new way of living—one rooted in self-worth, confidence, and authentic relationships.

Hi, I'm Kara

I’ve spent over 20 years helping women heal from wounds inflicted by toxic or neglectful mother figures.

I bring not only a wealth of experience but a warm, gentle presence that helps people feel safe, understood, and truly supported.

Combining mindful coaching with a compassionate approach, I create a safe space where you can uncover, process, and release the pain that’s been weighing you down for far too long.

What happens if you don't heal...

If these wounds remain unhealed, they can profoundly impact your life, often in subtle but powerful ways. Here are some consequences that may arise if the cycle continues unchecked:

Chronic Low Self-Worth
You might constantly feel like you’re “not enough” or that your accomplishments aren’t worth celebrating. This can lead to self-sabotaging behaviors, such as turning down opportunities or staying in stagnant situations where you’re undervalued.

Unhealthy Relationship Patterns
Without healing, it’s common to gravitate toward relationships that mirror the toxic dynamics of the past, whether it’s seeking approval from emotionally unavailable partners or feeling drawn to people who take advantage of your caregiving nature. These patterns can lead to a series of unfulfilling or even harmful relationships.

Perfectionism and Burnout
A deep-seated need to prove yourself can lead to a cycle of overworking, overcommitting, and burnout. You may place enormous pressure on yourself to meet unrealistic standards, often to earn approval or avoid criticism, which can leave you feeling exhausted and unappreciated.

Inability to Set Boundaries
Unresolved wounds often manifest as an inability to establish healthy boundaries. This can lead to people-pleasing behaviors, taking on others’ problems, or even feeling resentful because others continuously cross lines you struggle to enforce.

Constant Self-Doubt
An unhealed mother wound can result in a lack of confidence in your abilities, leading to hesitancy in decision-making and an inability to trust your own judgment. This can hold you back from pursuing goals, seizing opportunities, or asserting yourself in important areas of your life.

Difficulty Managing Emotions
If you’ve never learned to prioritize and validate your feelings, it’s common to experience suppressed anger, sadness, or frustration that you struggle to express. These bottled-up emotions can eventually lead to explosive reactions or a sense of numbness and disconnect from your emotions.

Feelings of Isolation
Toxic family dynamics can instill a fear of trusting others, leading you to feel lonely or isolated even when surrounded by people. You may struggle to open up, fearing judgment or rejection, which can prevent you from forming close, supportive relationships.

Persistent Anxiety or Depression
The emotional burden of unresolved mother wounds can manifest as chronic anxiety, depression, or other mental health challenges. The cycle of feeling “not good enough” and the strain of trying to meet unrealistic standards can leave you in a constant state of stress.

Self-Sabotaging Behaviors
A core belief of unworthiness can lead to self-sabotage, such as procrastinating on important tasks, rejecting supportive relationships, or staying in toxic situations. These behaviors prevent you from reaching your potential and fulfilling your aspirations.

Struggles with Parenting or Future Relationships
Without healing, it’s common to unknowingly pass on similar patterns to your own children or to approach relationships with heightened sensitivity to rejection or criticism. This can lead to overcompensating, projecting unresolved pain, or unintentionally repeating toxic behaviors.

Limited Personal Growth
When emotional wounds go unaddressed, personal growth becomes limited. Old beliefs, survival mechanisms, and defense mechanisms shape your actions and responses, keeping you “stuck” in a life that may feel unfulfilling or inauthentic.

Healing these wounds doesn’t just allow you to feel better—it creates space for a life rooted in freedom, empowerment, and joy. Without this healing, these patterns and beliefs are likely to continue to resurface, affecting every area of your life. Taking steps to heal allows you to step into a future where you’re free to fully express your true self, develop healthy relationships, and live a life aligned with your values and dreams.

Why this course is different…

This course goes beyond surface-level coping skills; it offers a gentle yet powerful journey that reaches into the heart of your patterns, inviting you to explore, heal, and create new, healthy pathways for the life you want to live. You’ll go beyond simply “getting by” and will learn how to set clear boundaries, trust your worth, and build an identity that is truly your own.

And because this journey doesn’t end after four weeks, you’ll have lifetime access to our supportive Facebook group. Come back to this safe space whenever you need a reminder, a boost, or simply to share your growth with others who understand.

Ready to silence the toxic mom voice in your head once and for all so you can live the life of your dreams?

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